Only 10 Years

Only 10 Years

One of the more difficult tasks in life is refraining from answering unasked questions. I had been working with a young man for some years and though he sought answers and asked many of the right questions, he was unable (unwilling) to change his actions in one area. On the surface his life appeared well put together: successful provider, caring family man, giving attentive friend, of service to his community, friends, even strangers. His laugh quick and genuine, handshake firm, but he had a secret that in the end cost him nearly everything. I knew of his secret for many years, but had I broached the subject with him, unbidden, our conversation at first blush would have appeared positive but in reality would have marked the end of our relationship. How do I know? Bitter experience. 

So, I waited, answering only the questions asked, regularly biting back words, being circumspect to the best of my ability, praying regularly for him and his family, asking in meditation for direction, hopeful for the day when he would step from ship to shore. It took him ten years and the fulfillment of the lesson: the only instrument sharp enough to cut away the excess of self is pain to finally bring his “secret” into the light of day. I’m grateful it only took ten, for most unfortunately never disembark. What this man discovered is that he had the answers he needed all along, having asked the right questions along the way, all that was required was a commitment to follow through and truly do the work, thus transforming theory into action.  It has been said “we are only as sick (spiritually) as our secrets” so if there is any area in your life where you are not “walking the way you talk” throw open the shutters and be free of the fear driven life.
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Published by Vincent Lee Jones

Silk sheets or city streets, Park Avenue or park bench, addiction is an equal opportunity destroyer of lives. My name is Vincent Lee Jones and I have been in recovery since September 1985. My professional career began when I was nearly 20 years in recovery and was asked to work pro bono with at risk students at Huntington Beach High School. At the time I had developed a reputation within the at large recovery community as an effective communicator and was known to some of the faculty. After the death of two students from prescription drugs I was asked to start working with at risk students, which I did for nearly 5 years. Word of mouth lead to offers of compensated freelance Facilitator and Director positions with numerous local treatment facilities in the ensuing years. As a retired Building Contractor/Designer, working in conjunction with a treatment facility, I created a construction program utilizing a workforce comprised almost exclusively of people new or returning to recovery, helping them to not only learn a trade and start making a living but since many of them had relapsed numerous times, to begin truly building a foundation with real aftercare to live free of active addiction. This program changed many lives. In my 30+ years in recovery I have worked with thousands of individuals from all walks of life, teenagers to the retired, famous to infamous, prosperous to those living hand to mouth, adamant atheists to those embracing strong Religious beliefs; suffering from all manner of intoxicant and behavior-based addictions as well as those who love and care about them, both as a member in recovery Fellowships and as a treatment professional. I can be contacted at 714-366-1725. I write and publish daily a recovery based nondenominational spiritually based blog at with accompanying videos that can be found as well on YouTube and LinkedIn at Vincent Lee Jones.

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