We have all done it and regretted it afterwards. We are either drawn into a situation or feel the need to volunteer our opinion. It may be a simple dispute between neighbors, a child rearing issue, a family squabble or something at the work place. The worst possible case is a crisis of romance. What generally happens? One party uses our misplaced good intentions to bolster their position, putting us at odds with the other party for in their mind we have now taken a “side.” If it is in the relationship arena if they reconcile that “well intended” support often comes back to haunt us, our words of “comfort” often putting us on the outs with both parties!
Do not wear another man’s hat was salient advice given early in the last century by Emmet Fox. Simply, in order to avoid unintended consequences, we refrain from gossip (either a provider or consumer), those seemingly innocuous little character assassinations (as funny as they may be) or take sides when family, romance or the heart is involved. If we fail to do this, we don the “other man’s hat” and pay accordingly. Our course is simple but not easy, in silent prayer we invoke love for all involved, seeking only to be of service without being negative, being supportive but keeping our opinions close to the vest lest they come back to bite us. It will take time and practice for this to become habit, and none of us will do it perfectly, but it is the path that provides serenity and will help us avoid those hard looks and cold shoulders at work, over the holiday dinner table or the backyard fence.
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Silk sheets or city streets, Park Avenue or park bench, addiction is an equal opportunity destroyer of lives.
My name is Vincent Lee Jones and I have been in recovery since September 1985. My professional career began when I was nearly 20 years in recovery and was asked to work pro bono with at risk students at Huntington Beach High School. At the time I had developed a reputation within the at large recovery community as an effective communicator and was known to some of the faculty. After the death of two students from prescription drugs I was asked to start working with at risk students, which I did for nearly 5 years. Word of mouth lead to offers of compensated freelance Facilitator and Director positions with numerous local treatment facilities in the ensuing years.
As a retired Building Contractor/Designer, working in conjunction with a treatment facility, I created a construction program utilizing a workforce comprised almost exclusively of people new or returning to recovery, helping them to not only learn a trade and start making a living but since many of them had relapsed numerous times, to begin truly building a foundation with real aftercare to live free of active addiction. This program changed many lives.
In my 30+ years in recovery I have worked with thousands of individuals from all walks of life, teenagers to the retired, famous to infamous, prosperous to those living hand to mouth, adamant atheists to those embracing strong Religious beliefs; suffering from all manner of intoxicant and behavior-based addictions as well as those who love and care about them, both as a member in recovery Fellowships and as a treatment professional. I can be contacted at 714-366-1725.
I write and publish daily a recovery based nondenominational spiritually based blog at https://livinginspirit.blogspot.com with accompanying videos that can be found as well on YouTube and LinkedIn at Vincent Lee Jones.
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