Hidden Mourning

Hidden Mourning

Mourning those who have passed beyond our sight is one thing, but what of the hidden things we mourn? Lamenting lost or missed opportunities, those “if I only would have” moments when we fantasize what our lives would have been like if we had acted or chosen differently. “If I were only (fill in the blank) years younger”, “If I didn’t have kids” (this doesn’t mean we don’t love our children or in any way wish they were gone, only fantasizing what life would/could have been like without that responsibility) there are many more. Those “What if” moments, we all have them, and they pave the way into reflecting morbidly which is spiritual poison. 

When they surface, and they will, our course is to let them pass with little notice, like a small wave lapping our feet at the water’s edge. We do not under any circumstance dwell on them or engage others in conversation regarding them for if we do, what may have begun as a seemingly benign chat or musing will quickly devolve into morbid reflection, pulling us out of the moment and into a destructive depressive contemplation of the past. To be clear: we can all profit from our experiences and “We do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it” but we must avoid will all due diligence engaging in “what if” fantasy contemplations of the past for there is nothing beneficial to be found there.

So, when we find we have drifted into “what if” thinking, we pause, and thank the Miraculous for all we have learned, products of our long schooling, our scars well-earned and convicted in the knowledge that our life is exactly as it should be in this moment, by the choices and decisions we have made which prepare us for the life lessons to come, standing ready to assist all who wish to profit from our experience.

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Published by Vincent Lee Jones

Silk sheets or city streets, Park Avenue or park bench, addiction is an equal opportunity destroyer of lives. My name is Vincent Lee Jones and I have been in recovery since September 1985. My professional career began when I was nearly 20 years in recovery and was asked to work pro bono with at risk students at Huntington Beach High School. At the time I had developed a reputation within the at large recovery community as an effective communicator and was known to some of the faculty. After the death of two students from prescription drugs I was asked to start working with at risk students, which I did for nearly 5 years. Word of mouth lead to offers of compensated freelance Facilitator and Director positions with numerous local treatment facilities in the ensuing years. As a retired Building Contractor/Designer, working in conjunction with a treatment facility, I created a construction program utilizing a workforce comprised almost exclusively of people new or returning to recovery, helping them to not only learn a trade and start making a living but since many of them had relapsed numerous times, to begin truly building a foundation with real aftercare to live free of active addiction. This program changed many lives. In my 30+ years in recovery I have worked with thousands of individuals from all walks of life, teenagers to the retired, famous to infamous, prosperous to those living hand to mouth, adamant atheists to those embracing strong Religious beliefs; suffering from all manner of intoxicant and behavior-based addictions as well as those who love and care about them, both as a member in recovery Fellowships and as a treatment professional. I can be contacted at 714-366-1725. I write and publish daily a recovery based nondenominational spiritually based blog at https://livinginspirit.blogspot.com with accompanying videos that can be found as well on YouTube and LinkedIn at Vincent Lee Jones.

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